Is my mother, who is 84, depressed?

It is so great of you to be sensitive to this matter for your mother's sake as depression in the older persons generation often goes undetected. You're right that medication, 'a normal slowing-down of life' (maybe meaning physical or mental slowing), the loss of loved ones/friends, social isolation, these are all part of the process of aging (the social isolation piece true here in the west more than in other cultures). But, if she is experiencing prolonged periods without enjoying much, periods of severe sleeping changes (too much or too little), increased sadness, increased substance use and/or a fixation on death, she may be depressed.

It might be worth asking her why she's exhibiting the symptoms that you've seen her exhibit; the symptoms that made you ask us a question. For example, 'Mom, you don't seem to have wanted to come to dinner recently, why not?' or 'You used to play cards with friends once a week, but now you say you'd rather watch TV, why is you don't want to go out-we can tape your show(s)!'

Sometimes we feel these kind of questions will disempower our parents who, for our entire lives, have been making their own decisions (many of which we'd never dream to question). But at this stage in life, you might be surprised at the answers you receive, and they might just be glad that someone noticed the change.

I'd also advise that you discuss these changes with her Doctor and/or pharmacist as combinations of medication are OFTEN the culprit in mood changes for any person, any age, who is one numerous pharmaceuticals.

Read more about Geriatric Depression.